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Old 30th August 2010, 14:40   #16
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Parental Control is not a full proof concept. Parental Influence IS

parents should educate the child about what is right and what is wrong.
Often deprivation and prohibition will lead to more pull towards what is prohibited.

Some of the things what we are doing (in our home) is as below

* We have proactivly been exposing our daughter to internet and its applications viz. e-mails, social networking, gaming, chatting etc etc since she was 4 years of age.
* Time of use are pre-agreed
* one of the parent is always present with child while she on internet
* Going slow/stead and not very fast exposure
* encouraging the child to do more activities viz reading, playing games with other kids, skating, bi-cycling, watching TV / Cartoons etc. More time child is engaged in learning / fun activities, lesser time the child is on internet.
* Passwords are known to all the three of us = all secrets must be known to all three, there is no hidden thing among the three, What is done on internet is known to all three, it must be shared openly, discussed during meals, family time. trying to bring transparency and influence.

Kids are smart enough to overcome prohibition/deprivation/control, they will always be.

Parents to lead and influence rather than follow and try to control is the name of the game.

Again there are no quickfixes here..we are learning too..
This.
Talk to your kids - instead of locking them up in cages.
They are the next generation, thus obviously, smarter than you, and will find ways to defeat the lock.

Then you will never know where they will wander.
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Old 31st August 2010, 01:16   #17
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Parental control methods are very limited. Why dont you get your son to get in RC cars/aircraft or some contructive hobby? In the US, parents lure their children in some hobby to keep them off drugs, online chats etc. RC is one of them, Plus its a bonding exercise between father and son.
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Thanks guys. The Norton software seems to be attractive, will check it out. Right now I have enabled content checking in IE. There is a facility to selectively (always) allow certain websites, and so I have allowed certain selective websites which the gang will normally access. All other sites will be blocked by the password pop-up.

I have gently made it clear to my son that wandering alone in the cyber world poses certain risks to children, same as wandering alone on the streets does. Therefore he will have to figuratively hold my hand in the cyber world just like he does on the streets, and he has agreed! Now he understands that he should access search engines / youtube only in my or my wife's presence!.

These children are very geeky and if we force some control on them, they will try to find ways out of it. Best method is to enlist their cooperation! Sadly,all the outdoor play possible for them is what they indulge in their school playgrounds. As our complex is located on a very busy main road, parents are loath to send the small children out on the road by themselves once they are back from the school by 3.30 PM, with the result they have to only play whatever games they can in the common areas of the apartment complex. They get bored very soon and go sit in front of the TV / Computer until the parents return from work.
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Suggest you do one thing in the evening :
Exercise - this will benefit you too ...
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Old 5th September 2010, 18:18   #20
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There is a very useful parental control utility inbuilt in the Vista and I have configured it in consultation with my son, to our mutual satisfaction. It has all the features this Norton utility has and then some. He can't play the games forbidden online even by way of CD / DVD. Don't know how I missed it all these days, perhaps because it was the last thing on my mind!

Thanks for all the replies, guys.
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Gansan, you can also try the k9 blue guard software. it blocks fault content on a normal said and you can put password controls on the sites and category as well. its a free download.
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Gansan, you can also try the k9 blue guard software. it blocks fault content on a normal said and you can put password controls on the sites and category as well. its a free download.
Thank you Ikoneer, but I am looking no further than the inbuilt utility of my OS (Vista)! It is very simple and effective. Interestingly, this feature is available only in Vista and not in XP / Windows 7!
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I have not yet given internet access to my 10 year old son. All his friends are on FB typing away in strange guttural lingo. I have not bought him any gaming consoles either. TV and beyblade are the only concessions we have allowed him.

Therefore, he believes he is a very unlucky kid and often says so.

So I pointed out that he can cycle, swim, roller skate and ride a horse at the age of 10, none of which I could do at his age. Not sure he got the point...
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@Samurai: How about getting him to "agree" that he will visit only certain sites, and install some monitoring software (in addition to parental control s/w) that you can use to make sure he doesn't visit other sites?

I remember when I was in 12th std I wrote a program to periodically capture screenshots and store them in a hidden folder, and this program wouldn't be visible in the task manager also. VB with some windows API calls - don't remember exactly. I sold this program to a neighborhood internet centre who wanted to avoid porn being accessed (for 300 rupees ). I guess there should be lots of such software out there.

And then, depending on his honesty level decide whether to allow access or not...
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The main trouble is with facebook itself. Every app tries to access all info from your account. And kids tend to click yes to every pop up window.
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Reviving and old thread with my experience. My 12 year old son got exposed to some content when he was doing regular browsing and installed some game on an android tab. It is unfortunate and I should have done a better job at preventing this much earlier. However, I have now setup Netgear Parental Control in conjunction with OpenDNS so that all devices come under this umbrella.
Been at it since last night and it now seems to be working. Had some difficulty controlling android devices while all ios and windows stuff was working fine. Sorted that as well now. Also had to ensure PS3 does not get blocked so quite some learning. Can selectively permit devices and set devices at higher filtering levels with this.
At this moment am confident my kids will not try to circumvent this and as a discipline we are instituting some changes in our device access at home.
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Good to see this thread, which I now need. My son nearing 3 years, and about to enter the pre-kg next month. Some of the channels he sees on youtube is not really something he should. I have enabled the child content on you tube, but I don't see any way to restrict specific channels. Any idea how this can be done, and also how to move him away from youtube in general.
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Any idea how this can be done, and also how to move him away from youtube in general.
The good old simple normal way, he is nearing 3 years and you are the parent. Start saying no!

There are enough and more studies out there which discuss the harmful affects of any and all such addictions in young children (yes it becomes addictive, the cartoons and what not). And like most addictions can be broken off. Give them diversions of old era, toys, building blocks, park strolls, a baby tricycle, read them books, a pet maybe? In short all you need is a will and time from your end as parent, but please keep them off this visual entertainment though it might seem the easiest.
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The good old simple normal way, he is nearing 3 years and you are the parent. Start saying no!
More you say NO, more kids want to know why!!

I would rather say, divert & engage in different activities...best part being, parent getting down to the level of a child & engaging the kid with different activities other than screens

Has worked good for me for last 9 years!!
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The good old simple normal way, he is nearing 3 years and you are the parent. Start saying no!

There are enough and more studies out there which discuss the harmful affects of any and all such addictions in young children (yes it becomes addictive, the cartoons and what not). And like most addictions can be broken off. Give them diversions of old era, toys, building blocks, park strolls, a baby tricycle, read them books, a pet maybe? In short all you need is a will and time from your end as parent, but please keep them off this visual entertainment though it might seem the easiest.
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More you say NO, more kids want to know why!!

I would rather say, divert & engage in different activities...best part being, parent getting down to the level of a child & engaging the kid with different activities other than screens

Has worked good for me for last 9 years!!
Agree with both, trying my best to divert him to physical activities. Unfortunately for 5 days in a week, I leave after dawn and reach closer to midnight. It becomes difficult to engage him to make it a habit. Got him interested in cars, and got him a few toys. Need to get some mind simulating games shortly.
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