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Old 17th July 2013, 09:53   #391
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SDP sir, I am literally into tears reading your post. I am so much going into this mode. I have a 1.5 months old kid. I am overweight, have Cholesterol, tending towards BP and not being able to do anything about all this (call it my laziness). My wife works too and she is too going through what I am going through. Hence I don't dump anything on her at all. We share our home-work and managing the kid.
And when I close my eyes and see myself couple of years from now, I see myself in a same situation as yours.

I didn't manage to go through all the 26 pages (call it my impatience) of this thread, but I'll make it a point to actually read all the posts to learn something from each one of you and make my and my family's life a better one.
Soumyajit9, One of the main reasons for starting this thread in the public domain was the strong gut-feel that I am not alone in this. I believe many like you and me face the life's dilemmas everyday. May be quite a few believe that, that's the way life is and nothing can be done about it. Some beg to differ. Let's at least make an attempt to take a shot at figuring out our life's priorities and reclaiming the ever elusive peace of mind.
Welcome to the journey Soumyajit!

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Old 19th July 2013, 19:06   #392
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Let's at least make an attempt to take a shot at figuring out our life's priorities and reclaiming the ever elusive peace of mind.
I have been a quite lurker on this thread for long time with a faint (but growing) guilt in some corner of my mind that I am not doing enough to lead a healthy life. SDP, your dedication to improve your life is really worth praising, I have a lot to learn from you and all the others who have contributed in this thread.

Going by generally accepted standards, I am not unhealthy. But I feel unfit. I have been living in UK alone for the past 3 years and I often find myself too bored to do something. I was never a ferocious reader, but I loved to read a good biography occasionally. I now find myself incapable of reading a book, nothing seems to penetrate that boredom and keep me hooked on to a book or a movie. Basically, I have become lethargic. A sedentary 8-5 lifestyle is taking its toll not only on my physical but also mental health. I can barely concentrate beyond 10 mins on any reading material at work.

My wife has moved in with me a month ago and things are starting to look much better. We have joined a gym together and my lifestyle is much more active than in the past year. I took a fitness test and the results were a mild shock. My blood pressure is high, fat content is high and BMI is hovering on the line between normal and high. I weigh 73kgs and my height is 5'10''. But I have started gaining weight around my waist. Every 6 months, I find myself buying new trousers a size bigger at the waist. And I have decided that this has to stop.

I need some advice from you guys on staying motivated. I find it extremely difficult to go to the gym after a tiring day at work. My wife has to literally drag me and resort to emotional blackmail to make me leave home in the evening. I have tried to go to the gym in the morning before I leave for office, again seems like an impossible task. I leave for office at 7am. If I have to go to the gym, I need to leave home at 5, come back by 6 and then leave for office at 7.

How do you guys find the strength to overcome the resistance to change??

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Old 23rd July 2013, 11:15   #393
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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went to the gym on 1 day.
2. Went for a brisk walk on 1 day.
3. Really BAD week.

#2 Reading
1. Completed "Beyond the Goal"
2. Started "The Google Story"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 4 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About 30 minutes
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My Mondays are quite hectic, I am going to move my updates to Tuesday.

Did exercises 5 days, missed one day.

Met the PT on Wednesday last week, he has added to my exercise regime.

1. Lower back & thigh stretching & strengthening
2. Upper back & arms stretching & strengthening
3. Hydrotherapy for Lower back & thigh stretching & strengthening

So here is the new pattern, I will be staring next week (yet working out the swimming pool for the hydrotherapy):

#1 on Mon/Wed/Fri

#2,#3 on Tue/Thu/Sat

Rest Sun
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SDP, first time I am reading your post and I am exactly in the situation when you started out on this post/journey. Having a 2 year old kid and a 9 to 8 job doesn't help. The weekends are like you said, spent in remorse. I have tried to start something a number of times over the past few years, but it doesn't go on after a few days. The mind is the only factor that controls what we want. But we are simply unable to control the mind itself. Thankfully, through this forum, I see there are hundreds others like me. I just have to try once again, with renewed fervor. This time, I have the company of you and the others. Hopefully, I won't stop.
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I need some advice from you guys on staying motivated. I find it extremely difficult to go to the gym after a tiring day at work. My wife has to literally drag me and resort to emotional blackmail to make me leave home in the evening. I have tried to go to the gym in the morning before I leave for office, again seems like an impossible task. I leave for office at 7am. If I have to go to the gym, I need to leave home at 5, come back by 6 and then leave for office at 7.

How do you guys find the strength to overcome the resistance to change??
dgupta, thanks for the kind words and really sorry for not being able to respond earlier.
Let me attempt to answer the question that you have posed in the end.
Yes, we all have inertia (resistance to change), we all love to stay in our comfort zone and most of us (including me) are habitual procrastinators. I have dropped out of gym many times, dropped healthy and constructive habits and picked up all sort of wrong lifestyle habits. Many years passed by and life just drifts ahead waywardly. AND THEN one day it hits you and you realize that you have been wasting your life and are looking at a lot of regret when you get old.. regret about lot of things that you should have done, but didn't. Ever wondered why many senior-citizens are cynical and angry most of the times? I don't want to be one such. There is just one solution to the "I will do it someday" syndrome and that is do it everyday till it becomes a habit and stays with you permanently. Hope that answers the question.

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SDP, first time I am reading your post and I am exactly in the situation when you started out on this post/journey. Having a 2 year old kid and a 9 to 8 job doesn't help. The weekends are like you said, spent in remorse. I have tried to start something a number of times over the past few years, but it doesn't go on after a few days. The mind is the only factor that controls what we want. But we are simply unable to control the mind itself. Thankfully, through this forum, I see there are hundreds others like me. I just have to try once again, with renewed fervor. This time, I have the company of you and the others. Hopefully, I won't stop.
aneezan, its glad to hear about your realization. Taking commitments openly in a public forum is one way of staying commited. If nothing else, at least the fear of shame works.
When I am having real bad weeks, the sheer thought of 'what the hell would I update on coming Monday' makes me nervous and many a times that helps to salvage the remaining week and get back on track.

Please do start reporting your weekly effort on this thread and that should keep you motivated. If you get back into your comfort zone for a week, do expect some harsh words here. The intention would be not to hurt you but to zap you out of inactivity. Try it. All the best.

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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went to the gym on 1 day.
2. Went for a brisk walk on 2 day.
3. Another BAD week.

#2 Reading
1. Completed "The Google Story"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 2 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About 30 minutes

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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went to the gym on 2 day.
2. Went for a brisk walk on 3 days.
3. Started climbing stairs again.

#2 Reading
1. Completed a book on "Mindfullness"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 2 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About 30 minutes
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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went for a brisk walk on 4 days.
2. Climbed stairs 12 times.

#2 Reading
1. Started a book "Connecting the dots"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 2 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About an hour
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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went for a brisk walk on 3 days. (Excuse: long weekend :()
2. Climbed stairs 5 times.

#2 Reading

1. Still on "Connecting the dots"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 2 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About an hour
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Just read a beautiful quote at the following thread:

http://www.team-bhp.com/forum/shifti...ml#post3213854

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“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” - John Lennon
So, looks like chasing happiness is not crazy after all.
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Sorry for the late update. Was tied up for last 2 days.

Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went for a brisk walk on 4 days.
2. Climbed stairs 7 times.

#2 Reading
1. Completed "Connecting the dots"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 4 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About an hour
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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went for a brisk walk on 4 days.
2. Climbed stairs 5 times.

#2 Reading
1. Started "The Long Tail"

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 10 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About an hour
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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went for a brisk walk on 4 days.
2. Climbed stairs 3 times.

#2 Reading
1. Completed "The Long Tail"
2. Started "Straight from the gut" Jack Welch.

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 3 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About 3 hours
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After 5 weeks of the usual excuses (job), started exercising two weeks back again...

Its been going well now since past two weeks

All in all about 40 different exercises and its taking me about 1 hour 10 minutes:
- 10 min of brisk walk then
- Stretches & Strengthening of
-- Upper back & neck
-- Arms
-- Lower back
-- Legs
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Update for last week:

#1 Weight-Control
1. Went for a brisk walk on 5 days.

#2 Reading
1. Completed "Jack - Straight from the gut" by Jack Welch.

#3 Planned 'core' work
1. About 3 hour of core work.

#4 Home-maintenance (neat-clean-tidy)
1. About 1 hour

PS: Welcome back Ajit. How is the back now?
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