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Originally Posted by supremeBaleno This is exactly the same emotions at play in rape cases that are not reported because it will bring dishonour to the family if the neighborhood knows about it - more so when the rapist is related to the family. End result is that while the criminal walks away smiling & even repeats the offence which is again condoned, the victim not only suffers in silence all her lifetime, but also sort of feels that she is responsible for what happened.
Now substitute "world" in place of "neighborhood" and "country" in place of "family" and you will see the parallel.
To say that after seeing the documentary, the world will see India as rape-land and all Indian men as rapists is sort of like saying that the World sees all Americans as racist because some racial killings happen(ed) in the US.
The documentary should be aired in India so that we can know the extent of the malaise and atleast have steps in place to avoid/deter this going forward. |
I agree to what you have said, every word of it. But we live in a world; where each has to come clean if any person points a finger and calls us a murderer, rapist, raciest etc...
Remember what happened in Nagaland, this happened because the men there were desperate to prove they are clean, so killing an alleged rapist will absolve them of that stigma.
I have heard a similar story, where a Male teacher in Trichur was beaten to pulp and his entire family including his kids and wife committed suicide because a 4 year old student just said "sir" when the parents asked who raped her.
It was later found out that the little girls calls a relative sir, seeing her mother calling him sir.
Vigilante justice is what will spread out now, and such documentaries do play a great role in sparking that violent thought in every man's head; that if we don't act now we will be branded a rapist by the rest of the world forever. That thought itself is enough to spark widespread riots and some anti-socials will always infiltrate such crowds and make this all uncontrollable.
As per me what one can do is ensure he is nice to women and see them with respect, you have no obligation to correct others, for that we have law of the land, you can seek help but don't try to be a super hero yourself. You never know what the truth of the matter is, so don't be a judge. If you are an unfortunate spectator to any such incident, make sure the perpetuators are brought to justice, being the hand of justice is not right, that is why we have law in place. Provide ample proof so that all escape routes are blocked.
Now having said all that, what do we need to ensure justice prevails?
We need to ensure there is proper governance, any public servant failing to deliver what he/she is supposed to do, needs to be a punished, the constitution needs to amend that and strict mechanisms to ensure action is taken needs to be implemented first.
We need better street lights, better police patrolling, should prevent night gangs who occasionally do objectionable things, including hooliganism from assembling at the same spot, cops should catch hooligans, I have seen for many years Delhi silently witnessing biker gangs near Bangla sahib Gurudwara taking the entire city into their control at the wee hours of every Saturday, things like these needs to be prevented first, allowing this type of hooliganism gives people a feeling that anything goes here. Good people lose faith in the system.
There should be proper reporting mechanisms, and there should be an agreed turnaround time for the cops to reach for help, this should be tested and re tested every week and the results need to be accessible by the people to ensure that confidence in the system improves; there should be neighbourhood watch setup, in every neighbourhood. Cameras needs to be installed, people should get a feeling that someone is always watching them, recruit more cops. Use the tax money for better governance and not for fancy things.
This is specifically what we should ask from the government, there should be well defined KPIs for each Ministry/Department and regular report cards need to be published by their team and the public should be able to scrutinize the rating given to these departments.
If a government fails there should be mechanism to dissolve them. this would keep the Government on the toes and only performers would be allowed to rule and non-performers, sacked. Let heads roll.
Till we don't have a system to do this we will keep on fighting for our honour on online forums like these. Let’s move ahead and make our voices heard, and tell the government to do their work or leave. Hurting innocent people or people who are not proven guilty to restore our honour will not lead us anywhere and will make this country a horrible place to live, both for Men and Woman.
I would like to start a thread where we can discuss what actions we can take for each issues like, broken street lights, hooligans, street Romeos etc without breaking the law. Mods, kindly confirm if I am allowed to do so while being within the rules set by the TBHP admin team.
Let each one of us take the first step towards making our surroundings, conducive as well as safer for our women, children and men. We fight all day to ensure we provide for our family, social stigma is the last thing I would like to go to bed with.
Pramod