Communication/behavioral quirks in India? Some lighter but quirky stuff where direct communication is missing probably because it has been traditionally so:
1) A relative or friend invites us to his/her marriage. We know for sure that we will not be able to make it. The custom is not to communicate it clearly but to say "zaroor avoonga". Few Indians would say "Sorry, I won't be able to make it for so and so reason" as it can be interpreted as apathetic
2) Doctors who diagnose patients as having a terminal disease do not communicate it directly. They prefer say everything is almost fine to the patient but communicate the facts to the relatives
3) Bad news of a death is conveyed to relatives as the deceased being unwell or serious and the relatives should start asap
4) For a birthday party or marriage reception, people are usually given a time which is half or even one full hour earlier than the actual start time of the function. I have seen incidents where invitees turning up at the rightly invited time but host missing from the venue only to arrive late
Behavior or communication is somewhat roundabout in these cases. I am not sure if it because of sober thinking or unconscious imitation from the patterns observed in the past. Keen to know what others think.
Other end of the spectrum is where prejudices galore and behavior or communication becomes complex, assertive or even aggressive, as experienced by Gabriel. We would have commonly seen this behavioral pattern by power centers, be it a peon in RTO's office or babus in the bureaucracy. They expect to be simply revered for reasons not so easy to grasp for the commoner.
Requesting fellow bloggers to share if there are any deep observations. After all, self reflection ( here as our society ) is the first step towards awareness and eventual correction, isn't?
Last edited by B103 : 3rd June 2014 at 20:11.
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