Many congratulations of getting a new job without going through the ordeal for long. Have been through it exactly a decade ago & can relate to everything you said selfdrive, but in the hindsight I feel that is one of the best things that happened to me. Let me narrate; pls bear for the long post & by no means i am hijacking your thread.
Was about to start drive back home post work with friends I use to carpool with when I read the sms; I was asked to leave on an sms (epitome of insensitivity)
Was lost for sometime & did not even discuss with them, just told them that I have to make some calls & under that pretext tried to gather myself. After 15 mins told them what had happened & ofcourse they took wheel from me & were encouraging throughout the 2 hour commute.
I did not have any liability as such but was 80% breadwinner for the family which was very concerning & was not earning well enough to save anything substantial (By no means I use to splurge, was genuinely on a low payscale)
Three months went by before I got a new job but family & friends stood rock solid throughout that difficult time; we did cut lot of corners in everyday living but no one complained.
Why do I feel that it was best thing happened to me: Today I am a reasonably respected professional in the industry I work in with some laurels that anyone can be proud off & decently placed socially, financially, professionally & all because of that lay off; let me explain.
I came out on the right side of it, got to know who are the people in life that will stand by through thick & thin, got time to introspect & actually took charge of my career post that.
Best was, got into the habit of reading; was pushed by wife to read a book, The Secret & did affirmative & visualizations exercises. (When pushed to the wall, you start doing things that you never believed in). I did start feeling well, confidence grew & I attribute some part of getting back on feet to that book.
Post that; have read over 100’s of books (non fiction) & it has become one of my best pass times – have enriched me beyond limits & today I am contemplating writing a book of my own
Key learning's as a professional.
• While job market is cruel but not as much if you constantly upskill yourself to stay relevant with times – Age is just a number – in last 10 years I have studied much more than I did in my actual schooling years & have added over a dozen certifications from renowned institutions which has help me stay ahead of the curve
• Power of networking – It’s one thing to not burn bridges but completely different thing to build more bridges. Constantly network with people in the area of your work, it enriches you as well keeps to well updated on happenings around plus you get lot of mentors.
• Focused image management on social media platforms – Not having a presence is more dangerous (It’s like no financial history impacts your CIBIL score negatively). You must be present across major social sites today as head hunters search your social media history to see how do you fit in the value systems of the company before offering which essentially means have a clean image (Better to avoid postings Your Friday nights flings updates). Have a curated image there which is more in line with your professional requirements.
• Financially speaking , build an emergency fund that can help you sustain for min 6 months without a drop in your lifestyle
• Adopt a hobby that can be monetized when that longish doom period comes – basically a skill based hobby that can fetch you atleast something whilst still keeping you occupied. This can be a great long term investment when you retire, start doing this & make some bucks as well
• While investment is a different topic but there is one golden statement that can help you tide over difficult times is “Invest on upgrading Yourself starting today”
As far as HR’s are concerned, I am one & very proud to be one. Often HR’s are in line of fire to implement management decisions; pls note that whatever affects you as in employee affects the HR also.
I’ve also fired people but my ratio of hire to fire is 1000:1 & hence I am happy as I have given more jobs then taken away.
I agree to the fact the most basic competency an HR professional should have is sensitivity & I am grateful to almighty that I have lived this value while implementing any difficult decision.
I have helped fired people get jobs outside through my circle & ensured to make this ordeal as less painful as possible.
Only people I deal with 0 sensitivity are the ones who are fired on the grounds of integrity; that is one of the closest value to me; so no compromises there.
Thank you again for sharing your experience, Wish you & everyone most & More