So, what is valued by the humans of your city? Every city has it's culture, primarily driven by the people who matter - mostly service providers that run the everyday things - market, shops, schools, hospitals, restaurants/caterers, religious places, transport providers - auto/bus/taxi. In my experience, how these folks interact and conduct themselves raises the levels of how good one feels about a city - for they touch more lives than an average java programmer like me.
My city had a very friendly culture - almost nobody ever spoke disrespectfully(barring the occasional old uncle that wanted to put an upstart to his place). However, over the recent many years, many "people in everyday business" seem to have developed this attitude where nothing matters - neither relationships nor money.
Some examples - I had to severe contacts with a catering guy that referred to my order as "too small to be profitable". He had agreed to do it earlier, but on the day before the event, he pulled a fast one on me. He has been our regular for 10 years and we have given him some really big events. Yet, he chose to burn the bridge this time.
- You shop for 2 hours at a jeweler store, giving a 6-digit business to him, yet he throws an attitude at you for using his parking for an extra 30 minutes post that ( it went something like your bill was made 35 mins ago, yet you are here only now). This is a famous jewellery shop from "a southern state" now taking roots in KA. For the crores of business they do each day, they cannot create a larger parking space.
- A famous photography chain store in Bangalore refuses appointment for a photoshoot because we were late by 15 mins ( clearly someone with a larger ask walked in and that would be more profitable )
- Booking at a resort canceled as a "foreign (read more profitable)" gang had walked in. They rescinded a confirmed booking blaming the booking site.
- Homestays accommodating boozers at public places from Bangalore in the middle of wildlife sanctuaries - no respect for other customers ; no respect for the sanctity of the forest.
- Another caterer refuses to pick up their utensils saying they can only pick it up the next day ( they stay 5 mins from my place ). The same caterer reusing tablecloth, while falsely claiming that they were laundered. This, after having made no negotiation on the price and paying them as much as they asked.
- A photographer at an event lays down guidelines on how many extra minutes he can stay on. This again is a big-amount assignment, yet the person focuses on the laying down curt roles rather than focusing on getting the job done and helping his customers out.
- Another famous chain of restaurants, where the guy taking an order to chose to give a "piece of his mind" to the table next to mine.
- Valet parking guy challenges me when I ask him to handle the car properly
- Hospitals and malls charging you hefty parking bills despite running huge purchase bills ( can you not waive a Rs.40 parking fee when I have paid 25000 on scans and tests?)
- Loudest customer getting priority - at a hospital line recently one guy just came in to the head of the queue arguing about how slow the queue was and the doctor not being on time etc and casually slipped into the front part of the line when he was back at the line originally. Nobody in the queue even batted an eyelid ( they seem terrified of this rowdy-like demeanor ), but I had to push him out and he was indignant that he had to.
- Car B brushed against Car A at a cramped parking lot. Car A owners gets down and slaps car B driver - Car B has his entire family - kids and all - inside. Imagine what the kids would be going through.
- Sales person at car showroom doesn't turn up for 2 hours past the appointed time despite having a prior appointment with him.
- At a car service center, two security guys speaking how "this guy now can only park this car on our head as there is no space" - and I ensured they will casual-banter with a customer or in front of a customer for the rest of their lives.
Overall the patterns emerging:
1. People(customers) are not important - there are always others just behind you that will provide business to him.
2. Money is not important. Most people are flush with new-found money.
3. We will bend rules as per my convenience - there is no "ethics" that we follow.
I would like to call out this behaviour is more conspicuous inhabited by the neo-rich ( sorry for the stereotyping, but you cannot deny me my opinion )
Why blame only servicer providers, that's the same with most corporate setups too, people just want to get by without doing any work or keeping a solid work ethics. And why blame only providers, many customers are just rude yelling at the drop of a hat ( that was something that I never saw in Bangalore ). Maybe money corrupts those that cannot handle it. We collectively, as a customers and providers, and more importantly as humans, have a joint responsibility to the next generations - they will have no role models if this approach of no-ethics-no-respect-only-convenience continues.
Lastly, this is not peculiar to my city, I have experienced the same almost all other cities in India, perhaps a lot worse in some cities. So how does your city fare?
Last edited by airguitar : 4th December 2022 at 10:49.
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