How to create an impression on a woman with your speech

amohit · 2nd June 2009, 08:50

how did I miss this thread for so long!!

4 years of marriage and the only situation that I have learnt to handle effectively is the one which starts with "Tell me honestly...."

Initially I used to be honest and had always found myself in trouble...but slowly I realized here "honestly" dosent mean truth. It means the truth that she wants to listen and definitely not the facts.

I think I certainly deserve a "noble prize for happy married life"

muni · 2nd June 2009, 09:10

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Originally Posted by amohit

Initially I used to be honest and had always found myself in trouble...but slowly I realized here "honestly" dosent mean truth. It means the truth that she wants to listen and definitely not the facts.

I think I certainly deserve a "noble prize for happy married life"

You are a noble man and you deserve the Noble Prize. I need to learn this art though am just about a couple of years into the marriage.

My honest opinions( I have a well though about opinion on most things) havent done wonders and whatever efforts i put in to handle things diplomatically, I still end up talking honest

One thing is for sure you cant expect them to react on similar lines as your buddies of the same sex. They turn out to be more moody than you can anticipate.

ramki067 · 2nd June 2009, 13:16

on the other hand... my girl(just now engaged) expects me to speak much and she listens... any reason as to why?

theMAG · 2nd June 2009, 13:43

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Originally Posted by ramki067

on the other hand... my girl(just now engaged) expects me to speak much and she listens... any reason as to why?

Evaluating the prey for weak points at close range, before going in for the kill.

amtak · 2nd June 2009, 14:03

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Originally Posted by ramki067

on the other hand... my girl(just now engaged) expects me to speak much and she listens... any reason as to why?

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Originally Posted by theMAG

Evaluating the prey for weak points at close range, before going in for the kill.

Maggie, speaking from experience

. Just Engaged!!!

My 2 cents: even if you hate your cooking, Just attemt something. The "aaaaoooo" when you burn your fingers while cooking or "oouch" when you cut your fingers makes you the sweetest person on the planet. Also, even if your Wife's best friend "accidently" spat the chewing gum on the car glass window thinking it was open, she still is a sweetheart and a darling. Very few friends like her

On the other hand, "Silence is virtue" in most cases.

ash_blore · 2nd June 2009, 14:42

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Originally Posted by Sam Kapasi

Thinking:

I love u and am so happy that i married you. Now leave me alone for 2 hours so I can finish my movie.

Nope. Wouldn't work for me. She'd kick me.

See there is the fundamental flaw. You watch the movie first. Dont ask for permission cause you wont get it. So watch the movie first. then say "I love you so much and I am going to marry you. Now what can i buy for you". That might work

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Originally Posted by ramki067

on the other hand... my girl(just now engaged) expects me to speak much and she listens... any reason as to why?

On a lighter note, Maybe she finally heard herself talking and came to her senses

Samurai · 7th June 2009, 19:55

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devarshi84 · 8th June 2009, 02:00

Never show that you are hiding. I am a poor artist with truth.

She mostly says ' out with it boy, either you tell and we finish it now or I make you reveal and you suffer.'

I never have a choice of my liking.

VANOS · 19th December 2009, 10:38

O.K people,
i read most of your posts, just got me thinking, for a woman to be your gf/wife/lover that means you really love her? right. just treat her like you do your car, listen to her when she has a problem, listen very carefully or else you wont find the problem, one u do, solve it to your best ability, or else get help on how to solve it. If you don't it would develop into a bigger problem. If you have been careless (missed a service etc) pamper her (with a detailing job or service with the best lubricants in the market) ie a spa or expensive dinner. just treat her like your car. you treat her well she'll serve you well, abuse her and she'll let you go at your time of need. Call me crazy but thats what i feel. This is what I've done and it has served me well till date (8 years to be precise).

Maximum_torque · 22nd December 2009, 20:04

Here is one of my tips to impress a lady.

Be the poet. Be the 'Shayar.' Make extensive use of Urdu, the language of romance, in your conversations.

For example, when you see a new pic of the girl on her Facebook profile, you can comment something like this,

"Wah Wah, Wah Wah. Aisa lag raha hai jaise Jannat ke Paydaan pe Phoolon ka ek Kyaara hai. Aur Jannat ke us Paydaan ke phoolon ke kyaare ka sabse khoobsoorat gulab mano meri taraf shrmaata-o-balkhaata hua chala aa rahar ho."

Remember guys. Flattery works with a lot of women. A litle bit of exagerration must also be excercised.

bj96 · 22nd December 2009, 21:54

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Originally Posted by Maximum_torque

...Make extensive use of Urdu, the language of romance, in your conversations.
...
"Wah Wah, Wah Wah. Aisa lag raha hai jaise Jannat ke Paydaan pe Phoolon ka ek Kyaara hai...

Like Balma Rashid ul Khairi (KK Menon) in Aagey Se Right

-BJ

foby.sebastian · 22nd December 2009, 22:00

Ah , a really interesting thread.

clevermax · 22nd December 2009, 22:41

Interesting read... wonder how I missed this till now.

Ok so pleasing a woman (wife/gf) with words... I'd say it is nearly impossible when she is really pissed off by what you did, or when she's very angry at you. The best option left for any man is to keep his mouth shut. Browse team-bhp in solitude.

Time will change things, emotional changes in women are really unpredictable and sometimes so fast, but you can do your talking when things turn in your favor.

pramodkumar · 23rd December 2009, 12:36

Just say this.

"The name is Bond... James Bond"

.

Seriously My dad had tought me, there is just one way to please them, listen to them !!

Pramod

amitk26 · 23rd December 2009, 13:51

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Originally Posted by ramki067

on the other hand... my girl(just now engaged) expects me to speak much and she listens... any reason as to why?

Don't worry too much the situation will be reversed very soon at the max a day after marriage, it's law of nature which applies universally.

2nd June 2009, 08:50	#76
amohit BHPian Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Bangalore Posts: 451 Thanked: 52 Times	how did I miss this thread for so long!! 4 years of marriage and the only situation that I have learnt to handle effectively is the one which starts with "Tell me honestly...." Initially I used to be honest and had always found myself in trouble...but slowly I realized here "honestly" dosent mean truth. It means the truth that she wants to listen and definitely not the facts. I think I certainly deserve a "noble prize for happy married life"
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2nd June 2009, 13:16	#78
ramki067 BHPian Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: BANGALORE Posts: 610 Thanked: 35 Times View My Garage	on the other hand... my girl(just now engaged) expects me to speak much and she listens... any reason as to why?
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7th June 2009, 19:55	#82
Samurai Team-BHP Support Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Bangalore/Udupi Posts: 25,813 Thanked: 45,445 Times View My Garage	Checkout the skills men are supposed to have... learn them all. 23 Skills Every Man Should Know - 1 Just Dreaming - Your Life - MSN Lifestyle Gamble at the race track, skin a moose, fillet a fish... the list goes on.
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8th June 2009, 02:00	#83
devarshi84 Senior - BHPian Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ahmedabad - Tor Posts: 4,024 Thanked: 211 Times View My Garage	Never show that you are hiding. I am a poor artist with truth. She mostly says ' out with it boy, either you tell and we finish it now or I make you reveal and you suffer.' I never have a choice of my liking.
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19th December 2009, 10:38	#84
VANOS BHPian Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Chennai Posts: 52 Thanked: 20 Times	O.K people, i read most of your posts, just got me thinking, for a woman to be your gf/wife/lover that means you really love her? right. just treat her like you do your car, listen to her when she has a problem, listen very carefully or else you wont find the problem, one u do, solve it to your best ability, or else get help on how to solve it. If you don't it would develop into a bigger problem. If you have been careless (missed a service etc) pamper her (with a detailing job or service with the best lubricants in the market) ie a spa or expensive dinner. just treat her like your car. you treat her well she'll serve you well, abuse her and she'll let you go at your time of need. Call me crazy but thats what i feel. This is what I've done and it has served me well till date (8 years to be precise).
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22nd December 2009, 20:04	#85
Maximum_torque BHPian Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Mumbai Posts: 98 Thanked: 3 Times	Use of URDU - the language of romance Here is one of my tips to impress a lady. Be the poet. Be the 'Shayar.' Make extensive use of Urdu, the language of romance, in your conversations. For example, when you see a new pic of the girl on her Facebook profile, you can comment something like this, "Wah Wah, Wah Wah. Aisa lag raha hai jaise Jannat ke Paydaan pe Phoolon ka ek Kyaara hai. Aur Jannat ke us Paydaan ke phoolon ke kyaare ka sabse khoobsoorat gulab mano meri taraf shrmaata-o-balkhaata hua chala aa rahar ho." Remember guys. Flattery works with a lot of women. A litle bit of exagerration must also be excercised.
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22nd December 2009, 22:00	#87
foby.sebastian Senior - BHPian Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Thrissur/Kochi Posts: 2,693 Thanked: 2,836 Times View My Garage	Ah , a really interesting thread.
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22nd December 2009, 22:41	#88
clevermax Senior - BHPian Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Tvm/Amsterdam Posts: 2,086 Thanked: 2,639 Times View My Garage	Interesting read... wonder how I missed this till now. Ok so pleasing a woman (wife/gf) with words... I'd say it is nearly impossible when she is really pissed off by what you did, or when she's very angry at you. The best option left for any man is to keep his mouth shut. Browse team-bhp in solitude. Time will change things, emotional changes in women are really unpredictable and sometimes so fast, but you can do your talking when things turn in your favor.
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23rd December 2009, 12:36	#89
pramodkumar Senior - BHPian Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Gods own country Posts: 2,302 Thanked: 2,207 Times View My Garage	Just say this. "The name is Bond... James Bond". Seriously My dad had tought me, there is just one way to please them, listen to them !! Pramod
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