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Originally Posted by doxinboy
In June, there were some emotional issues involved with my personal life, and I was depressed which further destroyed the will to get up and pull back. I'm still trying to fix the state of my mind, and feel hitting the gym everyday is the right way and cleanup my habits.
How do you play the mental game? How do you keep the motivation high? What is the one thing that pushes you out of the bed every single day? What is your secret of mastering the mind?
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Hi, Congrats on losing weight.
Personally, it is the emotional burden that you mention, that made me start this lifestyle. I had almost everything shattered on that July 25th 2018. I knew I was going to be off my routine work for atleast 3 months, I had just invested a lot of money on 2 new projects, I was in a lot of pain. I just can't say the magnitude of pain enough. Even on a guy like me with high pain tolerance, it was unbearable for the first 30 days. I couldn't breathe properly and had to use an equipment to strengthen my lung capacity, and even that exercise was bloody hard. Being confined to a room and having to be dependent on my spouse for every single activity, being a burden to my family, not being able to focus on my existing projects (which need total regular attention). There were a thousand things that pushed me down. Soltitude and immobility can be disastrous for a man who used to be active.
There was one point where I had to face my own conscience. The emotional burden was too high that I almost gave up. I realised I had one of the two options, 1. Let life throw me under the bus and play victim or 2. Bloody get up and put a good friggin fight, heck I had nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I chose the 2nd. I did not want a mere motorcycle accident mess up my life and affect the lives of people I love . The pain of regret will be so so much greater than the pain of hardwork and discipline.
Moreover I have always been followed by a lot of young and old people alike. I used to be a teacher at a college and have trained a lot of guys at the gym. Naturally a lot of young college kids looked up to me. I realised what a mediocre and below average example I had set before them, being 125+ kg for major part of 2011-2018. Well, I was very strong but not at all fit. And now after the crash, I was broken down to a bed ridden weak person and gained almost 10 more kg during recovery. I knew I would make lives of a lot of people better by making mine better.
I knew everyone believed I will never be back on a motorcycle or at the gym. My doctor told me my paralised right shoulder and arm would get back to 60% normalcy at best as there was nerve pinching and I might need another surgery later.
It was the same emotional burden that kept you away from your routine, made me to start following mine.
I truly believe mind is also a muscle and it needs regular training. I love utilising YouTube to the fullest. There are so many highly disciplined, strong, well developed minds sharing out advises for free. I make sure I utilise a part of my 70 minute 4am cardio in listening to them.
What keeps me going? I always have my back against the wall. I recollect every single moment of pain and struggle and every single sympathetic voice that visited me during my recovery. I do have some mornings when I get up, sit on the bed at 4am for prayer, and my body would urge me to lie down again, and at that point, I remind myself of those painful moments and it works every time. I haven't slept in, not even once. Big reason for my mind to get stronger is waking up at 4 every single morning. Initially it was hard, but I started to keep counting the days and take one day at a time. Today, it has been 272 days, and I have influenced dozens of my friends to do something similar. One BHPian friend of mine has his count on 37th day today, and have already lost about 5 kg. My anchor is 4am mornings and working
every single day. No Sundays, no rest days, no sick days, no rainy days, no foggy days. I put in the work every single day. Consistency as consistent as breathing. I have rested for my entire life in those 3 bed bound months.
Seriously, weightloss is not my goal. It is the realisation of how amazingly capable our body is, in fighting back weakness and rebuilding itself. If your body can better itself every single day (during recovery) and rebuild itself to be stronger and more useful, how more powerful can our lives be if we used the potential of our mind along with it?
In my case, it is the body that inspired my mind. In my mind, I really did not believe I will recover 100%, or I will get back my shoulder mobility or that I would ever be at the gym lifting weights again.
I witnessed my own broken body, build strength and muscle from the scratch. I mean, imagine a very skinny weak kid who can't even lift an empty barbell or a 5kg dumbell. I was at that stage in November 2018. My left shoulder would easily lift weights, but my right limb was so badly affected that I couldn't even lift an empty barbell. But I knew the power of my body. The capacity of it to get better and chose to put my mind into it. I saw results every passing week.
Honestly, it is easier for a person who is emotionally at a dark place to fight harder than someone who is already happy. That is what I personally have experienced.
In my mind, I feel everyday has one of the two outcomes, either you let life drag you by your neck and be stagnant at your life goals, or be a friggin warrior, take punches and still get up and fight back, marching towards your life goals.
I have had wonderful things happen in my life since I started working hard. 2 of my new projects which seemed impossible to go forward, got government approval. My existing projects have progressed and I have been really really content with every aspect of my life. There is not even a single moment in last 9 months that I complained about anything. Losing weight and becoming healthier is just an added bonus. This discipline and added energy makes every aspect of your life substantially more productive.
Sticking to the routine is hard. Being shattered is hard. Choose your hard.
Plan a routine, and start following it like your life depends on it, because it does.
Just give the importance to your routine and be very very serious about it. Just like how you would consider a serious important meeting at work. Take one day at a time, and let your family and friends be surprised on the level of commitment and discipline you showcase. It definitely spills out to all other parts of your life.
After all, 136kg body of mine is at 95kg today because I had 1.3kg mind in the right place.
Best wishes on your journey!