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Originally Posted by V.Narayan
I have one genuine question of those who are in a position to share their perspectives. Why is it that many (not all) NRIs who have emigrated to the West when visiting India or socially meeting a desi like me in USA launch of into a diatribe on India. This has always foxed me. What is the emotional reason behind this. I have seen it so often over the years that it could not be co-incidental. It is almost as if there is a need to vent and reassure. Sadly I see it in NRIs who out of chance I end up dealing with in business in USA or UK. This is not a baiting question but a real one. |
IIRC you were successful in getting the top brass of Skoda India and Lexus India to provide you with a private audience to clarify product, brand, service related queries. I didn’t think that such a thing was even possible. But you have made it happen.
From the above and the very matured language you use in your posts, I can safely deduce that you are very pragmatic and rational. And of course, you must be a great influencer to get Skoda India to talk.
So I wonder, why can’t you ask the above question to the same NRIs you deal with, because they are the
ONLY ones who can explain their actions. Everyone else (especially in this thread) may just speculate like how I have done below,
1. The parent of a child with movement disabilities who went on a diatribe against India because their child couldn’t get access to disabled friendly facilities.
2. The parent of a child with muscular sclerosis, who went on a diatribe against India because they couldn’t find a support model for their child to lead a respectful life in India.
3. The parent of a child with breathing difficulties who went on a diatribe against India because they couldn’t live in a city with inhospitable air quality.
4. The parent of a child who went on a diatribe against India because they couldn’t handle the pressure of enrolling their child to a kindergarten school. Forget about the child’s pressure, that’s at a different level.
5. A petrol-head who went on a diatribe against India because it would be too late for him to realise his dream of owning a 6-second car in India.
I don’t know if the people whom you met are on the above list because I’m just speculating. I hope you get the gist.
This thread is a not a definitive judgement poll on, “Emigrating to a Foreign Land! Worth it?”. It’s just a dialogue. One person’s nectar may be another person’s poison. One person’s mandatory requirement may be another person’s luxury. The “Worth it?” part is dependent on so many factors including the country, age, family, finance, work industry, religion, the appetite for risk etc.
As part of the dialogue to assess the worth, one does end up calling a spade a spade. It’s unfortunate that some people find it hard to digest that. It’s ok to rant about bad road conditions and driving habits in the Accidents thread. But try telling the same in this thread, some will lose their mind.
What I have realised is, some parents can thrash their child but the neighbours can’t even complain about their children. Similarly, NRIs, OCIs and PIOs are expected to relinquish their rights to state anything negative about India, even if it’s just stating the damn truth. Fair enough I’d say. But at least give them the space to talk in this thread, so it’ll help people make an informed decision.
For time immemorial, humans have migrated for different reasons. The search for better prospects for their self and their lineage has always been there. Look just two generations back in your family tree and you’ll know how much your elders have migrated. So don’t get suddenly nationalistic in this thread and paint NRIs, OCIs and PIOs with generalised statements.
On a lighter note, don’t assume that people who rant about India won’t rant about their current residing country. They very much will. Example: I have a 258BHP 6.x second car but I have to play hide and seek with speed cameras and cops. With migration, you get some; you lose some. There’s no land of milk and honey.
And those of you who are posting queries here, I hope you also check out ExpatForum, it’s got a wealth of information for different countries. The different experiences of people, both successes and failures will give you a balanced view.