The word "Education" often crops up whenever we encounter a bad driver or whenever we face unpleasant situation on the road. We tend to blame the other drivers / riders and call them "uneducated".
Education as a term means (from Wikipedia):
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Etymologically, the word "education" is derived from the Latin ēducātiō ("A breeding, a bringing up, a rearing") from ēducō ("I educate, I train") which is related to the homonym ēdūcō ("I lead forth, I take out; I raise up, I erect") from ē- ("from, out of") and dūcō ("I lead, I conduct").
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While formal education teaches skills and schools make attempts to inculcate good behaviours in school, the environment and surroundings with which a person interacts, their upbringing and the neurological makeup often times will lead to undesirable responses.
Daniel Goleman, author and science journalist, is known for his famous books on "Emotional Intelligence". I am sure some of the BHPians already know about the author and his books.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Goleman https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_intelligence
Some of his quotes:
- "The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain."
- "There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy… They’re controlled by different parts of the brain"
- "If you are tuned out of your own emotions, you will be poor at reading them in other people"
- "If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far."
While I ponder over this "intelligence" every day in all sort of situations whether it is dealing with your spouse/children/relatives/colleagues, I find it more interesting to apply while on the roads.
Came across this today:
https://www.angermanagementgroups.co...l-intelligence
The 10 points mentioned in the link, if followed, can make our everyday commute pleasant.
1. Focusing on self versus blaming others or the situation
2. Understanding how feelings and thoughts act together
3. Realising that anger is something we choose versus thinking it is provoked
4. Being concerned about consequences versus giving in to impulse
5. Showing respect for others and their rights versus thinking only of oneself
6. Accepting traffic as collective team work versus seeing it as individual competition
7. Recognising the diversity of drivers and their needs and styles versus blaming them for what they choose to do
8. Practising positive role models versus negative
9. Learning to inhibit the impulse to criticise by developing a sense of driving humour
10. Taking driving seriously by becoming aware of one’s mistakes and correcting them