Experiences: Friends & relatives borrowing your car

dilipkumar7278 · 27th August 2009, 14:42

For the last 3 years my cousin and his family has not talked to me or visit my house because I refused to give my car to him

. I do not ask my friends for their vehicles and also dont allow them to use mine.
Cheers

prince_pervez · 27th August 2009, 15:16

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Originally Posted by dilipkumar7278

For the last 3 years my cousin and his family has not talked to me or visit my house because I refused to give my car to himCheers

Hey thats sad man. People need to understand the owner's stand. Was it an emergency or something, or a joyride ?

rm_arjuna · 27th August 2009, 15:18

I have no probs sharing my bike ,however when it comes to my car i outrightly refuse .Having said this once i had to let my dear friend's GF drive with my driver in tow for about 100 mts since she wanted to feel how my car drives .Sometimes have to relent even you are not comfortable

finneyp · 27th August 2009, 15:24

Like most of us here, am very possesive of my bike & car!

Bike, I had given to very few friends who I know drive very sedatly & carefully!

Car, none so far & will remain so!

adi99 · 27th August 2009, 16:32

1. I dont mind giving my car to my friends who drive carefully (They should own a car as well and driven carefully). Valid License as well

2. I dont drive rashly or recklessly, so I dont sit with anyone who drive their car rashly or recklessly.

3. I dont drink and drive, so NO way I will sit with anyone who is drunk and driving.

kuttapan · 27th August 2009, 16:44

I have been guilty of getting a dent on a friend's brand new car, because of my carelessness. I fixed it for him without claiming insurance(what else could I do?). After that incident though, my friend himself has had many incidents(not all his mistake) and almost anyone who has driven that car has crashed it somehow. He remains a friend to this day, and he drives my car as well. If the friendship is deep, nothing comes in between.

coolclouds · 27th August 2009, 17:21

My friend and his wife took my car for a trip last month and returned in a very bad shape (Thanks, he rubbed!! see the snaps!!).

I understand that accidents can happen to anyone anytime, but what hurts is his response to my request for paying 50% of the repair cost!!

I still believe that there are friends who will not even show the vehicle to me in such a shape and get it repaired 100% at their cost.

It all depends on the person who takes your car!!

prince_pervez · 27th August 2009, 17:25

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Originally Posted by coolclouds

I understand that accidents can happen to anyone anytime, but what hurts is his response to my request for paying 50% of the repair cost!!

I am going to be optimistic and ask you if you mean to say he did not pay 50% but he paid 100% for the damage done right ?

lohithrao · 27th August 2009, 17:29

Coolclouds, that's bad!

I think your friend should have got it fixed completely! any incident/accident in the absence of the owner should be borne by the person who has taken the vehicle...lastly i hope you have done a check on what happened you should get into the situation of Mr Krishnagiri...

travelwriter · 27th August 2009, 17:29

This funny incident happened quite some years back when I owned a Yamaha. It was my bike but was free for use for anyone just because I did not mind much. But one day, things changed.

I was walking around in the market place (yes, someone had borrowed my bike without asking me) and I found my bike at the side of the road. I started wondering which of my friends got it there when this guy with his girl friend walks up to me and rudely says, "Why are you staring at my bike like this?". I was speechless and then managed to ask him, "Is this your bike?" "Of course", he retorts, "you think it belongs to you?" again, rudely.

I went back to my room and waited for him to come back. Imagine his surprise when he saw me there and asking for the keys. He was speechless now.

My room mates got a mouthful from me and that was the last time I ever lent my bike to all and sundry. And I am sure, I am not going to lend my car to anyone.

gd1418 · 27th August 2009, 17:32

Many many years ago I learnt how to say NO and that too bluntly and on the face and as the saying goes - One no and your saved off thousand problems. I know for sure that it was not all liked and I was called a "ghamandi".

I don't share any of my materialistic possessions even with my family. The thumb rule for the family is, if you like something that I possess and want to use it, buy a new one but don't take mine.

I never even give my pen to anybody at banks, post offices, ATMs, or any other place as I use fountain pens (Mont Blanc). If the nib is spoiled then the whole pen gets ruined. I do get strange and dirty looks, sometimes even have been called eccentric and fussy, but I give a damn.

prince_pervez · 27th August 2009, 17:34

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Originally Posted by lohithrao

Coolclouds, that's bad!

I think your friend should have got it fixed completely! any incident/accident in the absence of the owner should be borne by the person who has taken the vehicle...

Well it has been that all the way. I wonder why he did not pay up.
@Coolclouds what was his say on the pay up issue ?
I thought that was common sense, but like you Lohit, I too now realise that commonsense is very uncommon.

ThE Godfather · 27th August 2009, 17:45

I had a similar experience.

Last year, I was getting late from college, and I need to to be on Bus stop before it passes from there. So I took my bike, reached the bus stop, left my bike there and wemt to college. My friend said he need my bike for some work. He was very close friend. so I asked him to get the secondary key from home and pick the bike, after your work, leave it at home.

He did the same. But unfortunately, when he was coming back to leave the bike, bike wasn't starting. It was low in fuel, but rather checking the fuel tank, he opened the circuit compartment, removed a fuse and made a direct connection between wires. Somehow bike started and he left it at home.

In the evening, I had to go to market, I took my bike checked that fuel was low, so I thought to get it refilled first. One of my other friend was also with me, on the way, he had some work, so we stopped in the market.

I was sitting on my bike, bike switch to off, there was a smell of burning wires, I was looking here and there that from where its coming. In a couple of minutes, I got a huge smoke around me!

YES! It was my bikes circuit which got shot and bike wiring catched fire. I at the next moment, got off the bike, opened the battery compartment to detach the wires from the battery. Fortunately, I was in market and some uncle came with water and pour it over the battery.

IT got a huge crowd around me, some were laughing some were shocked.

From that day I did not give my bike to anyone.

coolclouds · 27th August 2009, 17:50

First of all, I sent the vehicle for repair and told my friend about the bill.

I asked him to pay only 50% (considering it could have been happened to me as well - fate!!)

I met him two times after this incident but still waiting for the payment!!

prince_pervez · 27th August 2009, 17:51

^^ Shucks man, he might have taken out an old grudge ^^

27th August 2009, 14:42	#31
dilipkumar7278 BANNED Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: COCHIN Posts: 441 Thanked: 109 Times View My Garage	For the last 3 years my cousin and his family has not talked to me or visit my house because I refused to give my car to him. I do not ask my friends for their vehicles and also dont allow them to use mine. Cheers
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27th August 2009, 15:18	#33
rm_arjuna BHPian Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Hyderabad Posts: 468 Thanked: 149 Times	I have no probs sharing my bike ,however when it comes to my car i outrightly refuse .Having said this once i had to let my dear friend's GF drive with my driver in tow for about 100 mts since she wanted to feel how my car drives .Sometimes have to relent even you are not comfortable
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27th August 2009, 15:24	#34
finneyp Senior - BHPian Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Bangalore Posts: 2,716 Thanked: 319 Times View My Garage	Like most of us here, am very possesive of my bike & car! Bike, I had given to very few friends who I know drive very sedatly & carefully! Car, none so far & will remain so!
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27th August 2009, 16:32	#35
adi99 BHPian Join Date: May 2007 Location: Bangalore Posts: 274 Thanked: 2 Times View My Garage	1. I dont mind giving my car to my friends who drive carefully (They should own a car as well and driven carefully). Valid License as well 2. I dont drive rashly or recklessly, so I dont sit with anyone who drive their car rashly or recklessly. 3. I dont drink and drive, so NO way I will sit with anyone who is drunk and driving.
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27th August 2009, 16:44	#36
kuttapan Senior - BHPian Join Date: May 2007 Location: Melbourne Posts: 1,155 Thanked: 22 Times View My Garage	I have been guilty of getting a dent on a friend's brand new car, because of my carelessness. I fixed it for him without claiming insurance(what else could I do?). After that incident though, my friend himself has had many incidents(not all his mistake) and almost anyone who has driven that car has crashed it somehow. He remains a friend to this day, and he drives my car as well. If the friendship is deep, nothing comes in between.
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27th August 2009, 17:21	#37
coolclouds Senior - BHPian Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Garden City Posts: 1,798 Thanked: 519 Times	My friend and his wife took my car for a trip last month and returned in a very bad shape (Thanks, he rubbed!! see the snaps!!). I understand that accidents can happen to anyone anytime, but what hurts is his response to my request for paying 50% of the repair cost!! I still believe that there are friends who will not even show the vehicle to me in such a shape and get it repaired 100% at their cost. It all depends on the person who takes your car!! Attached Thumbnails
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27th August 2009, 17:29	#39
lohithrao Senior - BHPian Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Kudla/Mangaluru Posts: 3,204 Thanked: 225 Times View My Garage	Coolclouds, that's bad! I think your friend should have got it fixed completely! any incident/accident in the absence of the owner should be borne by the person who has taken the vehicle...lastly i hope you have done a check on what happened you should get into the situation of Mr Krishnagiri...
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27th August 2009, 17:29	#40
travelwriter BHPian Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Hyderabad Posts: 294 Thanked: 115 Times	This funny incident happened quite some years back when I owned a Yamaha. It was my bike but was free for use for anyone just because I did not mind much. But one day, things changed. I was walking around in the market place (yes, someone had borrowed my bike without asking me) and I found my bike at the side of the road. I started wondering which of my friends got it there when this guy with his girl friend walks up to me and rudely says, "Why are you staring at my bike like this?". I was speechless and then managed to ask him, "Is this your bike?" "Of course", he retorts, "you think it belongs to you?" again, rudely. I went back to my room and waited for him to come back. Imagine his surprise when he saw me there and asking for the keys. He was speechless now. My room mates got a mouthful from me and that was the last time I ever lent my bike to all and sundry. And I am sure, I am not going to lend my car to anyone.
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27th August 2009, 17:32	#41
gd1418 Senior - BHPian Join Date: May 2006 Location: Gurgaon Posts: 3,578 Thanked: 728 Times View My Garage	Many many years ago I learnt how to say NO and that too bluntly and on the face and as the saying goes - One no and your saved off thousand problems. I know for sure that it was not all liked and I was called a "ghamandi". I don't share any of my materialistic possessions even with my family. The thumb rule for the family is, if you like something that I possess and want to use it, buy a new one but don't take mine. I never even give my pen to anybody at banks, post offices, ATMs, or any other place as I use fountain pens (Mont Blanc). If the nib is spoiled then the whole pen gets ruined. I do get strange and dirty looks, sometimes even have been called eccentric and fussy, but I give a damn. Last edited by gd1418 : 27th August 2009 at 17:34.
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27th August 2009, 17:45	#43
ThE Godfather BHPian Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: punjab Posts: 213 Thanked: 6 Times	I had a similar experience. Last year, I was getting late from college, and I need to to be on Bus stop before it passes from there. So I took my bike, reached the bus stop, left my bike there and wemt to college. My friend said he need my bike for some work. He was very close friend. so I asked him to get the secondary key from home and pick the bike, after your work, leave it at home. He did the same. But unfortunately, when he was coming back to leave the bike, bike wasn't starting. It was low in fuel, but rather checking the fuel tank, he opened the circuit compartment, removed a fuse and made a direct connection between wires. Somehow bike started and he left it at home. In the evening, I had to go to market, I took my bike checked that fuel was low, so I thought to get it refilled first. One of my other friend was also with me, on the way, he had some work, so we stopped in the market. I was sitting on my bike, bike switch to off, there was a smell of burning wires, I was looking here and there that from where its coming. In a couple of minutes, I got a huge smoke around me! YES! It was my bikes circuit which got shot and bike wiring catched fire. I at the next moment, got off the bike, opened the battery compartment to detach the wires from the battery. Fortunately, I was in market and some uncle came with water and pour it over the battery. IT got a huge crowd around me, some were laughing some were shocked. From that day I did not give my bike to anyone.
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27th August 2009, 17:50	#44
coolclouds Senior - BHPian Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Garden City Posts: 1,798 Thanked: 519 Times	First of all, I sent the vehicle for repair and told my friend about the bill. I asked him to pay only 50% (considering it could have been happened to me as well - fate!!) I met him two times after this incident but still waiting for the payment!!
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27th August 2009, 17:51	#45
prince_pervez Senior - BHPian Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Redwood shores, CA, USA Posts: 4,210 Thanked: 51 Times View My Garage	^^ Shucks man, he might have taken out an old grudge ^^
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