I wholeheartedly thank everyone for their words of support, advices, and calls and personal messages expression concern - I'm overwhelmed by the solidarity of this community 🙏
I will be eternally grateful if everyone who reads this has a dashcam, and suggests the same in their circles - city driving, short jaunts, highways - don't matter. Dashcams are a must.
Let me elaborate a bit more on the aftermath from my personal front -
- The accident occured several months ago, in the early part of the year
- My friend gave me his car with a driver (his wife's, who was out of town for couple of days) for going to the police station, etc. but on the third day I started driving a borrowed car for the same purpose - I was invariably visiting the police station almost everyday until my Thar was released, and the place I lived in made it difficult/ impossible to get a cab or auto. I was fine, did not have any hesitation - though whenever I see a two wheeler on the wrong side, I kinda got panicy, angry all at once. That faded over time...
- It took me 3 months to drive to the accident spot - I had to see it, figure all the what-if scenarios
- I shifted out of that area - it was my work residence, and my family lives in a different city. So it was an easy decision to pack my bags, and AirBnB it wherever I needed a roof. I miss the community and the friends there though - they were the ones who stood by me through the tough initial weeks
- While it took a month and a half for the Thar to get back on the road, I'm still finding and fixing minor/ not-so-minor issues. Will update my ownership thread now that I have shared this burden with you all
- I started penning down this thread (in a Notepad) in June. But could not get myself to revisit the events and complete it. I used to sleep for 6 hours approx. - that has now become 4 hours, 5 at best. Initially, I used wake up every hour or hour and half, drenched in sweat with nightmares. This has also slowly faded away, thanks to all the support and counseling I received. My sleep was pretty disturbed yesterday and day before though, after penning this!
While I'm normal, handling my day to day stuff as usual now, this is stuck in my mind, no more as a remorse but more as a learning/ dispassionate observation - and might be years before it gets unstuck -
- Going through the videos, hearing everyone out, listening to the cops, revisiting the accident spot, etc. one thing is clear - if there was someone who could have avoided/ mitigated that accident, at least like how it happened, it was me - I have been though a gazillion tricky situations, and almost always had the right instinct/ reaction - except when it mattered between someone's life and death
- I could have stopped 5 seconds earlier, or pulled into the curb - I did not. Was it the familiarity of that road, knowing that people will overtake in the wrong side at that curve and move back to their track? Was it the assumption that I'm in a Thar, with my headlights, flashed my high beam, and there's no way I'll not have been visible, and that vehicle will move right now - until it did not? I think I started tying myself into a knot with that headlight (from the first screenshot in the OP), and it was too late the way things unraveled
- Irrespective - knowing what I do, I was the only person who could have stepped out of the way. And I did not. The bike might have still gotten into a crash/ had a fall - may be broken bones or even impalement. But might have lived nevertheless
No, I am not saying this as part of some beating myself up ritual. This has made me even more defensive - I was never a bullying Thar driver, but even from my Indica/ Getz days, used to have this subconscious right-of-way concept in my head. That's more or less subdued by defensiveness, at least more often than not. And it is more peaceful letting everyone who's in a hurry to head to their destiny that many microseconds earlier.
I have driven about 9,000 KM since the accident. Started enjoying the scenes around the drive more, nature is truly beautiful if we give it the attention she deserves!
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Originally Posted by jaysheth ...
Expecting the other vehicle to get in the correct lane is the most natural expectation.
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My dad used to say (late 80's/ early 90's) that we should drive like everyone else is going to hit us, and should be prepared to avoid them.
After this accident, I'm trying to apply that more. Defensive driving is easier said than done in our roads, but one can still try!
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Originally Posted by masterChief007 ..
This might be unpopular opinion but I really hate oncoming LED lights, maybe because I have to wear glasses, I get immense glare from the oncoming LED headlights
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Those were actually modified/ higher power ones apparently!
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Originally Posted by ex-innova-guy ..
what if I had left 5 mins early or late and several other questions.
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Here’s a suggestion by one of my friend who is currently studying MA in Clinical Psychology.
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Thank you for your support and suggestions, bro! I too had the same thought - I could have started back home a little earlier. Or later. But yeah,
I had to tell this tale...
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On the topic of Dashcam, I always thought of getting one but was worried it may mess up my car warranty. |
All dashcams come with a connector for the 12v port, so it's just plugging in like you plug a phone for charging. Moreover, even the hardwire kits do not touch any wires but piggy back on couple of fuses - I chose cabin light fuse (for always on connector and ICE fuse for Acc connector), and completely reversible of required.
I'd recommend dashcams with capacitor (instead of Li-ion batteries) though, just as an added safety.
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Originally Posted by satish.gawai ..
The first thing I will do is to purchase the nice dashcams for my vehicles.
Thanks and have a speedy recovery. |
Thanks, and please do get the dashcam!
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Originally Posted by Mr. Nobody Where's the dashcam video being talked about here though? |
I do not know about the cops, but I will never put it in the public domain. Seeing someone crash into my vehicle to their death is not something I want to ever share.
Like I said in the OP, the sole reason for this thread is to encourage everyone to get a dashcam. That's all.
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Originally Posted by CarML ...
Modern motorbikes are equipped with very powerful LED headlights and are equally dangerous as four wheelers when driven with high beam.
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This will never happen - but I hope someone in the power corridors bans white LEDs, esp. modifying then into moving stadium flood lights.
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Originally Posted by ashvek3141 ...
Having said that , could you or someone who has a gotten one can share a few details / models of the dashcam to source from Amazon maybe?
Aside, wouldn't it be prudent to get the dashcam hardwired and let it continue recording even when the car is parked?
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What would be the pros / cons of doing this instead of connecting it to the 12V port?
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But if there is no passenger in the co-driver seat, than ideally airbags on the LHS shouldn't be deployed. Atleast, this is what I used to think. |
This is what I have now -
https://amzn.eu/d/iaUTG6t - switched to these as I wanted GPS speed recording with the video.
This is what I had when I had the accident -
https://amzn.eu/d/5OBS8Ik - if GPS is not required, I'll still recommend this if this is the form factor you like/ need.
Nexdigitron are official distributors for 70mai and DDPAI. Though the DDPAI app is kinda crappy, they have more options with capacitors instead of a battery - I'll not want a Li-ion to sit under the hot sun if it's avoidable...
Hardwiring is a no-brainer, I've done it for quite a few of my friends since this accident. Except for the additional effort, there is no con of done properly.
About the airbag logic - I'm baffled even more with what you've said. Maybe someone from the industry can help understand why airbags are fired even when there are no one in those seats - seems to be adding repair costs unnecessarily.
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Originally Posted by Amrit@wheels ...
I can only imagine what a 135km/hr impact would have looked like, no matter what the vehicle is.
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Sending you a big hug. Chin up. |
I do not want post anything on the bike, but here is what my Thar's chassis looked like. Quite a few didn't belive this was caused by a bike accident - I'll add more details soon in my ownership thread -
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Originally Posted by sgmuser Oh that's some seriously lucky bloke you are. You're blessed and the guardian angel was sitting right next you on this day. It's traumatic but look at the positive side. You're in a solidly built vehicle and sitting high. I think you did good not just to you but as well to your whole family by choosing this vehicle on that day. Imagine this is being a small car.
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I don't see any attempt of him to slow down, stop, change lane at all in this whole story.
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personally pls try to avoid night drives as much as possible. Start early in the morning like 5 onwards and leave the city by 6 or 7 if it's a long drive.
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You're bang on - call it luck, blessing, whatever, but was there that has made me go through this and yet be fit enough to tell this story. I'm truly blessed that way!
The biker trys to lean to his left into his lane right when he was less than a meter (my guesstimate) from collision. Too little too late... Let's not get into the why or what part though, I'll truly like to keep this on the dashcam itself and nothing else...
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Originally Posted by efgritesh ...
Just out of curiosity, wondering how a vehicle with ADAS might have reacted to this situation. would it break completely to avoid impact, while still maintaing the lane. It might also be useful in leagal defence similar to dashcams in such scenarios i guess. |
If configured right, ADAS might have applied my brakes to a standstill much before, maybe saved the day. But there is no saying that just because I stopped, the other person would have avoided me (though the biker tries to avoid my Thar too late in the sequence).
Automated drive, if it could divert both vehicles away from each other safely, maybe... But what's the point in automating driving - I hope I don't live to see that as the primary mode of travel!