We wake up late. (Yetinote: Before you get all smart and smiley, don't forget that we got home at 3.30am. Oh OK you win.)
I must go to work today. It is a working day in what is clearly going to be a week full of holidays and festivity. I have a lot of pending things to be done and Jenny joins me to go to the office.
Not everyone has an private office with a large bed and lots of DVDs and books. It will not be difficult for her to pass some time there.
I'm hard at work as Jenny is still saying her individual hellos to everyone. One half of my mind smiles everytime I hear her laugh or talk and the things, sometimes funny, sometimes naive that the staff say to her. I can hear as my shouting window is open slightly.
We have some Diwali parties to attend. Tomorrow night will be the first one. It is a big classy gambling party with different levels stakes on different tables. One table for poker and another for small stakes. I have explained all I can about Diwali, but there is only so much I know.
Why is it traditional to gamble?
I'm not sure.
Well tell me what you know then.
I don't know why people gamble on Diwali. Laughing.
I go on to explain the rangoli and the diyas and the fireworks and the sweets and the glamour, clothes, jewellery, gifts and
kharchi bits. The
kharchi part turns out to be a costly piece of information, lol.
(Yetinote: I hope that some of you will be able to explain some traditions of Diwali and their reasons for TheOne® when she does read this thread, I am sure she will enjoy it very much. )
I wrap up as soon as I can and 3 hours later we're out. Shopping. There are many things a girl needs and we try and buy all of them in one evening. But most of all, the girl needs to buy some Indian clothes.
Why can I not manage a Saree?
Jenny, I do not know how that infernal thing is worn. I must admit it looks gorgeous but a badly wrapped saree will look awful.
Wrapped?
Look, it comes as a single large piece of fabric and has to be wrapped in a particular way. I should know, my mother wore a Saree (impeccably, if I may add)
to her office every single day. Neither Dad nor I have any clue as to how it is done. Besides, you need a blouse and stuff. No normal Indian size blouse would fit you.
We start looking for Punjabi suits - either salwar kameez or churidar kurta. It is a difficult time as I begin to realise that Jenny is getting very confused and I am not able to help beyond a point.
Well?
It's nice.
Nice? You say that when you're not so sure.
I don't know, I cannot tell until you wear it.
That one's nice.
It's too blingy. Why is everything covered in gold here?
God look at that.
Oh God that looks beautiful.
Yup, at 20 thousand rupees it had better bloody look nice.
We develop a nice rythym and for the first time, we start speaking to each other in German. It starts of as a statement I make so that the salesman cannot understand me and she replies and we just do not stop from there.
On occasion I do not understand and she repeats slowly and I manage to grasp it within the context.
It is the forst time we have complete conversations in German. It is useful to be able to speak to her ad have no one understand.
A couple of tries later
What is wrong with these bloody pants she shouts over the changing room door.
Suppressing a giggle I explain
That this is the nature of a churidar.
A WHAT?
A churidar. I wait while she understands and learns the word.
Arrey, what is wrong with this choo-ree-daar? I cannot even draw my calves into it.
I turn to the salesman.
I think she'd rather wear a salwar.
We have already been to malls, stores, laa-dee-dah design studios and lucknowi chikan shops. Everything is either too much, too rich or too weird. I feel a little helpless and call a few friends. A few more suggestions and we're finally at Biba.
She tries on some stuff. So far I have not really seen her in a full suit because she won't step out of the changing room.
She finally does and I quickly suck my breath in. The sight of a beautiful, large, tall woman with flaming red hair in a white punabi suit causes even the salesman to exhale.
Beautiful madam, really beautiful. You must take this one.
She turns to me.
What do I do with this scarf, pointing to the dupatta.
A little help and she's done.
Even though I have not taken my camera to the store, I will show you what I mean with some photos I took at home.
What about the black one?
Yeah that looks gorgeous. She's wearing a black salwar kameez with lots of heavy gold embroidery.
So should I take the white one of the black?
Well the black looks richer.
God the white one looks like something you wear for a wedding. is it not too heavy?
A wedding? What? I then realise that the lace and embroidery is confusing her.
Look, ladies really dress up for diwali. That white one would be simple. So I'll wear the black one then?
Well, I'm not sure if one wears black on Diwali.
Arrrgghhh... so now what?
I am standing outside her door in the changing section. I feel helpless and confused. I should know more about these things...
You should really avoid wearing black on Diwali says an angels voice.
One of the ladies in the adjoining changing room has taken pity on my condition and decided to join the shouting party.
Thank you, shouts Jenny from the other changing room.
So it's settled then.
We buy both the suits. The black and gold looks too delicious to leave on the rack.
Where will I wear the black one?
I don't know, to a wedding maybe?
To a wedding? One wears black at funerals, you know.
No not here. here we wear white.
Then why am I wearing white for the Diwali pooja?
Uhh....
That evening we're home as Jenny tries on all her new Indian clothes all excited as my father and I laugh. Later we enjoy a quiet meal with him. Tomorrow he will return to his home in Pune. It is an enjoyable conversation and a peaceful meal.
This will be one of the very few quiet evenings we will have on this trip.