Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences

aargee · 3rd November 2010, 11:21

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Originally Posted by benbsb29

That's good to hear. So, our deduction was right, about getting the mother's attention and their presence.

Our detections are right, except that "this attention" needs to be given periodically. One more observation is that, more harder the tantrums, more time it takes to cool them down. The moment the symptoms of tantrums are felt, the child should be given an attention.

Also, we noticed a peculiar (actually common) behaviour with the second ones that they always want the toy the first one has. Is it possible to change this? I've just tried, but not hard enough as I know its a common phenomena.

pankaj_sachdeva · 3rd November 2010, 11:25

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Originally Posted by aargee

@Benbsb & Pankaj - Last night we gave our Daughter some utensils after playing with her for a minute or so. Result? She was cool & didn't make tantrums at all. So what I'm observing is, she needs some attention once in a while.

I guess its going to be my Son's turn now. He woke up early in the morning & started his own share!!!

aargee: good to hear about your little angel.

My son has started another show today morning; while i was getting ready for office he starts to cry intermittently and as soon as I was about to go out of the room, he stops eating, starts crying like he has seen a ghost. Doesn't stop crying even when everyone in the family took turns to pacify him.

As soon as I pick him up, he smiles and now he is not ready to go to anyone else. I took him down to common play area in our apartment block and only after 15 mins. he goes to his mother. Wonder, how he gets to know that his dad will be out for quite sometime after wearing a certain type of clothes.

On a another note , have you got your son or daughter pneumoccal vaccination done. Our doctor told us that is optional and if we want, we can get it done. Just wanted to know, if it that effective and necassary. Somehow,I am not convinced that we should get all the vaccinations our doctors advise us.

aargee · 3rd November 2010, 11:41

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Originally Posted by pankaj_sachdeva

Wonder, how he gets to know that his dad will be out for quite sometime after wearing a certain type of clothes.

How young is your Son? We'd the same problem & here's how we resolved...
Son : Be at home (& all the trantrum tactics)
Me : Ok, I'll be at home from now on, I'll call up office & say I'll come no more to office, shall I do that?
Son : Ok
Wife : Then what about food & expense?
Me : We'll sell car, bike, computer, Son is my life & I'll do anything he says
Son : Noooo!!! & starts yelling
Me : Listen, don't shout, unless you want to hear other options
Son now stops crying & I tell him, I work from Mon-Fri to earn money for fuel, food, expense, computer (his cartoons & toys) & Saturday & Sunday is for family. It took about a week for him to understand (Wife also played the drama accordingly). A week later he started telling to himself that Father works from Mon-Fri, Sat & Sun are reserved to play with him. No more cries, no more scenes.

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Originally Posted by pankaj_sachdeva

On a another note, have you got...our doctors advise us.

Its upto you, we only take what our pediatrician recommends & we also do not hesitate to cross check on internet. Anyway, I'm hearing about this vaccination for the first time. If you like, I'll take a pic of our Son/Daughter's vaccination schedule & post it for you here this evening.

pankaj_sachdeva · 3rd November 2010, 11:53

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Originally Posted by aargee

How young is your Son?

........Anyway, I'm hearing about this vaccination for the first time. If you like, I'll take a pic of our Son/Daughter's vaccination schedule & post it for you here this evening.

My son is just 9.5 months old and it is not possible to make him understand the office thingy. I think, we should divert his attention to something else or take him to children playing area while I am about to leave and that might solve the problem.

It would be great if you can post the vaccination schedule. I am associated with pharma field itself and hence know some insider info that not every vaccine available around is required and hence the dilemma.

anupamsinha · 3rd November 2010, 14:16

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Originally Posted by pankaj_sachdeva

On a another note , have you got your son or daughter pneumoccal vaccination done. Our doctor told us that is optional and if we want, we can get it done. Just wanted to know, if it that effective and necassary. Somehow,I am not convinced that we should get all the vaccinations our doctors advise us.

Pneumococcal conjugate vaccine or PCV which again your doctor may refer to as Prevnar should be given. The reason I think many people call it optional is because it costs a lot. Probably one of the most expensive vaccines right now. In case you are vaccinating your child in the first year, 4 doses are required, after an year a single does will do. The cost of a dose is around Rs. 4000. I will suggest that you get this vaccination done.

Read more on it Pneumococcal conjugate vaccine - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia and Pneumococcal Conjugate Vaccine: What a Parent Needs to Know -- familydoctor.org

S_U_N · 24th December 2010, 10:29

My son is less than 2 years and we want him to spend a few hours playing with other kids.
Play schools and activity centers around here operate for 2-3 hours Mon-Fri. They teach numbers 1-10, colour identification, drawing, connecting dots, and some other things for motor skill development.
Can anyone share experiences with play groups and nursery schools?

BaCkSeAtDrIVeR · 24th December 2010, 13:04

That is a good thing. Kids need to learn to socialise. Talk to the persons there, and when your kid goes there for the first time, stay around, so that he feels confident.

SILVERWOOD · 24th December 2010, 13:09

I am very happy to inform all of you that i have become a proud father of twin baby boys.The joy of being a father is very different.

pankaj_sachdeva · 24th December 2010, 13:15

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Originally Posted by SILVERWOOD

I am very happy to inform all of you that i have become a proud father of twin baby boys.The joy of being a father is very different.

Congos mate !!! You have got the new year gift in advance and that too..a gift that you will cherish for the rest of your life.

may god give best of health to mother and to your bundle of joys. Please share the pics in-case that is not a problem.

kalpeshc · 24th December 2010, 13:40

I personally feel that playgroups or nursery is a must for children who do not get a lot of regular opportunities to socialize. At two years, their brains are developing at an extremely rapid pace and they need that socializing experience to help this development. They get to learn new things everyday (good playgroups would have such concepts) which is a good diet for their developing brains.

S_U_N · 27th December 2010, 09:52

@silverwood: Congratulations! That is awesome news. I am sure there would be chaos at home many time during the day now. But there would be a lot more fun as well.

Sheel · 27th December 2010, 11:13

I had read somewhere about Maggi and noodles as junk, well they are.

Try giving atta (flour) noodles, they aren't as tasty but not junk, add vegetables, chicken etc and make it tasty.

Try to learn making home-made pizza/burgers etc, much better than the junk available outside.

I too was hesitant to go to school (nursery) and more so at boarding, glad my parents pulled me off from boarding and put me in a regular school.

(I am not married or have kids, but thought to chip in though)

SILVERWOOD · 27th December 2010, 11:35

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Originally Posted by pankaj_sachdeva

Congos mate !!! You have got the new year gift in advance and that too..a gift that you will cherish for the rest of your life.

may god give best of health to mother and to your bundle of joys. Please share the pics in-case that is not a problem.

Thanks Pankaj for your best wishes.I will post the pics soon.

Its good to see an active fellow CR professional on this forum.

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Originally Posted by S_U_N

@silverwood: Congratulations! That is awesome news. I am sure there would be chaos at home many time during the day now. But there would be a lot more fun as well.

Thanks for your best wishes.

Deep Blue · 29th January 2011, 23:59

Have anybody from the forum used child developmental programs from Early Childhood Education And Preschool Education For Kids | Educational Technologies Limited
One of their sales person came home for a demo. It includes books, CDS/DVDS and other multimedia stuff. The books seemed good but are very expensive. The total package costs nearly 2 lakh rupees. Payment can also be in instalments over 36 months. We can also opt a part of it.
Anybody here if you have used it, can you share your views on it?. I find it very very expensive, hence did not commit to buying.

NetfreakBombay · 30th January 2011, 01:57

I bought one set of these books for my son few years back, don't remember name of the part that I bought, it had 16 books.

Books are excellent, even though child would not understand anything at this age, he would be attracted to books which is a plus in itself.

IMHO, this is good and useful but way too expensive. All this can be bought separately far cheaper.

24th December 2010, 10:29	#396
S_U_N Senior - BHPian Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Oslo Posts: 1,809 Thanked: 417 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences My son is less than 2 years and we want him to spend a few hours playing with other kids. Play schools and activity centers around here operate for 2-3 hours Mon-Fri. They teach numbers 1-10, colour identification, drawing, connecting dots, and some other things for motor skill development. Can anyone share experiences with play groups and nursery schools?
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24th December 2010, 13:04	#397
BaCkSeAtDrIVeR BANNED Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Kochi Posts: 2,522 Thanked: 752 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences That is a good thing. Kids need to learn to socialise. Talk to the persons there, and when your kid goes there for the first time, stay around, so that he feels confident.
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24th December 2010, 13:09	#398
SILVERWOOD Senior - BHPian Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: BANG-A-LURE. Posts: 1,197 Thanked: 4,657 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences I am very happy to inform all of you that i have become a proud father of twin baby boys.The joy of being a father is very different.
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24th December 2010, 13:40	#400
kalpeshc BHPian Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Mumbai Posts: 535 Thanked: 137 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences I personally feel that playgroups or nursery is a must for children who do not get a lot of regular opportunities to socialize. At two years, their brains are developing at an extremely rapid pace and they need that socializing experience to help this development. They get to learn new things everyday (good playgroups would have such concepts) which is a good diet for their developing brains.
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27th December 2010, 09:52	#401
S_U_N Senior - BHPian Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Oslo Posts: 1,809 Thanked: 417 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences @silverwood: Congratulations! That is awesome news. I am sure there would be chaos at home many time during the day now. But there would be a lot more fun as well.
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27th December 2010, 11:13	#402
Sheel Team-BHP Support Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Purnea (Bihar) Posts: 9,588 Thanked: 14,404 Times View My Garage	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences I had read somewhere about Maggi and noodles as junk, well they are. Try giving atta (flour) noodles, they aren't as tasty but not junk, add vegetables, chicken etc and make it tasty. Try to learn making home-made pizza/burgers etc, much better than the junk available outside. I too was hesitant to go to school (nursery) and more so at boarding, glad my parents pulled me off from boarding and put me in a regular school. (I am not married or have kids, but thought to chip in though)
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29th January 2011, 23:59	#404
Deep Blue BHPian Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Udupi Posts: 747 Thanked: 684 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences Have anybody from the forum used child developmental programs from Early Childhood Education And Preschool Education For Kids \| Educational Technologies Limited One of their sales person came home for a demo. It includes books, CDS/DVDS and other multimedia stuff. The books seemed good but are very expensive. The total package costs nearly 2 lakh rupees. Payment can also be in instalments over 36 months. We can also opt a part of it. Anybody here if you have used it, can you share your views on it?. I find it very very expensive, hence did not commit to buying.
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30th January 2011, 01:57	#405
NetfreakBombay Senior - BHPian Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Bombay Posts: 1,466 Thanked: 1,021 Times	Re: Parenthood: Sharing the joy, precious moments, learnings and experiences I bought one set of these books for my son few years back, don't remember name of the part that I bought, it had 16 books. Books are excellent, even though child would not understand anything at this age, he would be attracted to books which is a plus in itself. IMHO, this is good and useful but way too expensive. All this can be bought separately far cheaper.
	() Thanks